Traveling

On Tuesday, I’ll be getting the first stamp in my soon-to-expire passport. I’m traveling with my parents to visit a family friend in his home country. I’m nervous about the trip.

I haven’t been on a plane in at least a decade. I’ve been trying to remember the last time. I think it was around 2003. I was just a kid. Now I’m an adult who is visibly gender non-conforming. I’m worried about airport security. I’m worried about just existing as myself in a country that is not – legally or culturally – queer-friendly.

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They

It’s been about a month and a half since I started using they/them pronouns at work.

Or, more accurately, since I requested the use of they/them pronouns at work.

Almost no one is remembering to use them. I actually spent a couple of weeks thinking my boss just hadn’t told anyone yet, because absolutely no one was using they/them.

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Quotes: Privacy

Unsurprisingly, since I’ve spent so long closeted and thinking about coming out, many of the book quotes that have resonated with me have to do with privacy or the pros and cons of sharing information.

Reticence is a natural state. It is not hiding. People don’t show themselves equally and easily to all.

Dear Friend, From My Life I Write to You in Your Life, p. 5

I do not show myself easily to anyone. It’s not just on these topics. I find it difficult to talk about myself or share anything that I consider even vaguely personal. I don’t even like when people ask what kind of music I listen to!

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