Reflections

There has been some nasty discourse lately about how nonbinary people aren’t trans. The “logic” behind that has been mainly that nonbinary people don’t transition – and when it’s pointed out that many nonbinary people do, in fact, socially and/or medically transition, the argument then becomes that nonbinary people aren’t “really” transitioning because they are not transitioning to the so-called opposite sex.

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A Nonbinary Life in Pictures

Inspired by this post about a nonbinary person’s history of gender expression

I thought this would be a fitting topic for Transgender Day of Visibility: making myself visible on this blog with some pictures of myself through the years.

I’ve been gender nonconforming for essentially my entire life, often because I didn’t really understand what was expected of me, and I didn’t really grasp the concept of things being “for boys” or “for girls”. To me, they were just things.

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Neither

I was checking some books out to a seven-year-old and her mom today when the kid stage-whispered, “Mommy, is she a boy or a girl?”

The mom quickly said, “She’s a girl” and tried to shush her daughter. I figured she was worried the kid had upset or offended me, so I smiled and indicated my pronoun pin and said, “Neither, actually!”

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Carnival of Aces: Physical Health/Our Bodies

Part of the reason it took me so long to realize I was ace is that I had a number of reasons for wanting to hide my body. It took me a long time to realize that beyond my fears about people seeing, I simply had no interest in physical intimacy of any kind, of sharing my body or exploring another’s.

I was not at all body-conscious as a kid. I was comfortable in my skin and I would play outside without a shirt on until my mother firmly told me I was getting too old to do that. I showed off my skinned knees and bruises proudly, I played sports and climbed trees, I rode my bike and I liked the way my body worked.

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